Okay so I have done everything the instructions told me to however, instead of using the toggle buttons, which I do not have, there has to be a way I can wire them to come on with my headlights like my last rig. Any ideas or guidance would be great!

 

If you are still trying to figure this out, usually on the relay you connect 86 to the headlight +12V, 87 to the +12V for the fog lights, 85 to ground, and 30 to the +12V battery.