I am so ****ing ****ed right now. I spent 3 years looking at a Honda tuning magazine and import tuner and fanatasizing about having the dream car... Modz.. all of that good stuff. And my conservative step dad is like I dont want to u spending all your money on modz. I dont want you modifying the car. THATS BS! I dont no what to do. I love my Maxima so much. I used to want a camaro, corvette, or a supra. But I decided to keep the Maxima and mod it. Its a 95 SE 5 speed... My real dad bought it off the showroom floor and it has every option. its a beauty! And it ****es me off bc i see the potential in this car and it makes me want to cry! I spend all my time reading about cars and working to spend 99.9% of my paycheck on my car. Its not fair!! I dont no what to do. I just ordered a short shifter and it came in the mail today and my moms like you no Matt (my stepdad) is gunna get ****ed if u put it in. Im like ughhh. She doesnt care but my step dad does. She no's how much I love cars. This is my hobby. THis is what keep me not from doing drugs, or spending my money on some BS stuff. When you modify your car your displaying your taste, your love for it. I thought a DAD would understand cars. Quite frankely he doesnt care about cars. His hobby is gardening and I respect that. Why can't he respect mine? Has anyone ever gone through this??? THis is killing me guys! I love my baby and I want to make it look nice, sound nice, and perform nice.

 

just do them indiscriminatly so he never notices, unless u plan on doin alotta exterior stuff lol i put my y on, my clear corners, red clear tails, and my dad never even noticed

 

my parents know how much i spend on my car, but if they knew i ordered a jwt ecu and a mevi, they'd be hella ****ed...good thing those are two items easily hidable. when my dad sees the new manifold cover, i'll tell him it's just a cover i picked up for looks, and he won't give it a second thought

 

My parent's don't care what I do to my car.

 

try explaining what you put in here to him, and if that doesn't work...its your money anyways...right?...so spend it how u choose...or like said above, mod on the low. Good luck

 

just put them on my friend....he'll get over it.

 

My father wants me to find him a good cheap intake for his 2000 accord v6 2dr. I can't say i've ever had your problem. How old are you anyway, way i see it if its your money and you at least contributing some to the house hold, what you do with the excess is up to you.

 

I feel for you man. I got a wife that tries to pull the same BS with me. But what you said in your post sounds exactly like what you need to tell your step-dad. Explain to him that you have your hobby and he has his, and just because he doesn't get into it, that doesn't mean that you cant do a lttle something extra to the Max. Beside's what's it hurting...you still take care of business, right?

If push comes to shove...it's YOUR car isn't it.........

 

Im actually 16. My dad bought this car off the showroom floor, not him. My mom paid it off. WHy is he telling me I cant do that? Technically its my moms car. My friend told me to go ahead and install my ****. clears, Shortshifter, exhaust... it's not like he can yank it of. hehe

 

You need to have a sit down man to man conversation with him. Be sure to point out the above mentioned as well.

He's looking out for your financial future, but not taking into consideration something you love. He needs to be able to blend these two things together. Customizing your car is both fun and expensive. Set some limits together and perhaps get him to agree with them. He really should take into consideration your interests as well as his prospective outlook to your future.

Good luck!

 

Discuss it in an adult way - let him know you have a budget.
Put it all down on paper in a nice spreadsheet and it'll make him think you've given it serious consideration.

e.g.
Net income = $2000.00
Gas =$100.00
Maintenance = $100.00 (show you plan for regular maintenance as a monthly budget item)
Insurance = $200.00
Other spending (clothes, CD's, movies, fast food etc.) = $500.00
Savings = $600
Mods = $500

What you don't tell him is that your savings is for "major mods".
I think he'll accept this kind of approach better than "It's my car and my monsy and I'll spend it on what I want"

 

wow 16 and a 5 speed maxima. Nice , im 19 and use a MetroCard ( Beat that Maxima ) ehheh

Since you worked for the money then you should be able to spend the money anyway you want to. My dad is the same way, he saw fast and furious too many times and thinks that I will be racing late night with NOS .

Dont worry about it, he is just worrying about you. But install the parts anyways.

 

I was talking to my mom and I got in a wreck a few months ago. And thats when i realized I love my car! I dont need another caR. The Maxima is my baby. And Im going to try to pay my parents back for the $500 deductable by the insuarance. My mom said that would prbly help. I was like ****ing A if i give him $500 he better letme mod that *****. Its wierd tho any money for bills, insuarance, wreck, he puts ina savings account for me. He never pockets it... Iono why.

 

You just got in a crash? Sorry. But don't invest too much in the Max, you could just as easily get into another accident and get screwed over royally.


Save up for a better car for when you get out of college. Think, you get out at say 22, thats 8 years you could save a ton of money. I've been working three years and saved 10g, I could have easily spent it on the max, but I hear BMW calling my name......


The Gange

 

ok after i installed $4000 of aftermarket accessories on my car the bill came in and i paid it off, as long as i paid parents dont care if i used their card hehe

 

That's the same thing with me, I'm still waiting for my card to come in.

 

Whoa!!! that sounds soooo familiar. I havea 96 SE 5spd, every option except leather and mainly that nagging. I haer ya. I just turned 17 and have been doing mods here and there since I turned 16. First thing was the clear corners and my dad didn't even notice. Intake was next, he didn't notice at first, but then one day he stepped on it. I heard about it for a while. Y-pipe, shaved emb, tint, alpine amp and subs, grille, and everything has added up and I still hear about it. I can't even tell you how many times he threated to take the car away from me and give me our 91 F150 or even worse, sell the car. But in the end, it all turned out alright. I just ordered a Greddy exhaust and he'll probably flip out again when he sees how much that cost. But, it is my money. I work for it. I still have wheels (next) and maybe a body kit and supercharger planned for the future. We'll see. but just do it, don't ask, or even mention it to your mom or stepdad. Don't even tell them you look at mods. Just do what you want, but don't get smart with them when they find out or they might decide to do something you really don't want them to.

 

welcome to our world of parent hated modding, "i dont understand why you waste your money on that car" "you need to save some money" "if your dad finds out about this one" "oh youve done it now" GOOD THING THE TITLES IN MY NAME LOL

 

Hell, my dad lends me a hand installing the complicated stuff.

Could be that I make about as much as all 3 of my parents (stepmother) combined.

 

how.. what do you do for work?

 

Doesn't matter, I'm quite a bit older than you I'm sure (24). Out of college and working for a living.

mzmtg and I were refering to the same thing...we're adults, our parents don't care what we do with our cars. Call it a perk of growing up.

 

Well the only way to get your parents to get off youe back about modding your car is to buy your own car! Technicaly its yours moms correct? If their married its now both of theirs,..not yours.
When i was younger my first car was purchased by myself. Parents couldnt say anything to me about it. Best of all they couldnt take it away from me whenever they got ticked.
You should consider yourself lucky to given a car to drive around in.

 

My parents don't mind that I mod my car. My mom doesn't really care either way, and my stepdad likes to see it since I work full time (if not overtime) whenever I'm not is school. He likes to see me do something that I enjoy with my money.

 

my parents just BIT*H when i have no money for when the car breaks down. or courts dates/tickets/gas/clothes/condoms/ u get the hint but i pay all of it back etc lol im 19years old BTW

 

I'm 20 and was supposed to be a junior in college but a sophmore because I switched credits etc... I work full time during the summer and spend lots and lots of money on the maxima. The car is mine! . My parents don't care what I do with it but they yell at me all the time for racing it and such. (Perks of living at home is that you can save lots of money and do what you want with it). Are you bigger then your stepfather? Have a conversation with him about it and try to work things out explaining to him its not his car. If push comes to shove install everything you want and if he tries to take it off or threatens to sell the maxima then tell him you will beat him to a bloody pulp if he does that. This will cause lots of stress for your mother who will have to choose between a partner or her son so likely there will be a compromise in your favor. Enjoy and don't let anyone stop you from what you love.

 

I'm a parent and I mod my car. I hope my son is in to cars when he gets older (he's only 2) as I think it would be good father / son bonding time. Cars are his fav. toys right now though. He loves 'em.
I could not let him spend all of his money on mods though. As posted earlier, go for a budget!

 

Maybe its because I'm not a parent but I believe he should be able to spend his money on whatever he wishes. A parents job is to suggest what to do with the money and not make him spend it the way they want.

 

I'm not going to crash my ****ing Maxima AGAIN! How i did it was completely stupid and could HAVE been avoided. I no better. I learned iM not superman on the roaD. And as long as i realize that I'm fine.

 

What the f**k? Where you dropped as a child or something?

It is his father's car. His father paid for it, and the title is in his mother's name. Just because he drives the car doesn't make it his.

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