So, my mom has destroyed my poor car and now i'm going to have to fix it!
I need a few tips on what parts to purchase. The front lower control arm is leaking, how do know if the ball joint needs to be replaced? Also, the rear sway bar was snapped? I was looking at some Stillen sway bars, what do you guys think?

 

The control arm is leaking?

As for the sway bar I'd say get an upgraded one from stillen!

 

Stillen sway bar for sure and is it the strut that is leaking?

 

The boot on the front lower control arm bushing has a crack & it's leaking grease.

 

It's the boot that's leaking.

 

Is it the CV boot on the axle? Or the ball joint boot?

 

Go to Amazon.com and look for the doorman 521-723 and 521-724. These are the control arms that you would replace for the leaking ball joint (you didn't mention left or right so I put both part numbers.) I replaced both of mine last year with these and am very pleased. About 120 per if I recall.