So, how do I make an SE out of my GXE? New struts? Heavy duty shocks? An anti-sway bar? Some of you more knowledgable than I types out there need to set me straight and it will be appreciated.

Well to convert to an SE, while probably possible would not really be worth it. I would just start adding the suspension upgrades. RSB, FSTB, Eibachs, Tokicos, bigger/wider rims, etc. After all those you would handle way better than a stock SE.

My upgraded 215/55/16 tires, RSB and FSTB make my car handle pretty nicely.